15 Life Lessons I Learned by 50 (That I Wouldn’t Have Believed in My 20s)

Here are some lessons I’ve learned during my half century on this planet:

  1. Be kind. The benefits of being kind–or at the very least courteous–far outweigh the effort you put in. Do random acts of kindness. Compliment someone. If a retail or food-service worker makes a mistake, be understanding and patient. Kind people live longer than unkind people.
  2. I know myself better than anyone else. I don’t let anyone else’s opinions control what I do, what I wear, or what I say. Other people’s opinions are suggestions–take them or leave them.
  3. Everyone else is as worried and insecure as you are. Some people just hide it better. It doesn’t mean that they are any smarter or better than you.
  4. Laugh it off. If you make a mistake, fall down, or do something dumb, just laugh it off. Other people (and you) will forget it a lot faster if you just let it roll off your back. EVERYONE makes dumb mistakes. Everyone. You aren’t alone, and you aren’t the biggest idiot in the world. Give yourself a break.
  5. “Fitting in” is highly overrated. Be you. Confidence is sexy. Besides, great leaders didn’t get where they are by following the crowd.
  6. Don’t stay in a bad relationship, even if it’s “for the kids.” Oftentimes, kids really thrive outside the bounds of a toxic relationship.
  7. It’s just stuff. Sure, stuff gets broken–oftentimes accidentally by people you love–and that’s annoying. But your stuff can be replaced. You can never erase the hurtful words you say to the person you love, because they broke your stuff. Stuff is never, ever as important as those you love.
  8. You’re probably a lot smarter than you give yourself credit for being.
  9. Don’t judge. You don’t know all the facts. That lady speeding down the road with her toddler unbuckled in the back seat may be panicked, heading for the hospital for an emergency that you can’t see. That “big kid” having a “tantrum” in the store may be on the autism spectrum, and is having a melt down, which he/she hates as much as you do. The fat lady in the bikini may have lost 100 lbs so far, and she’s pretty darn proud of what she’s done. Don’t shame people for smoking, drinking, or being fat. We all have our faults and bad habits. As a pretty famous guy is alleged to have said, “let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”
  10. Never lose your inner child. Dance. Sing. Skip. Tell poop jokes (not to strangers, though). Go down the slide. Bounce at the bouncy house, if the attendant says adults are welcome. This is an advantage to being older. When you’re 20, people often think you’re “too old” to do these things, but when a 50-something does them, it’s charming. And if people think it’s dumb, screw them. See #2 above.
  11. Don’t make major life decisions to please other people. Maybe your parents expect you to go to college, but you just want to go to trade school and become an auto mechanic, because that’s where your heart is. Or maybe (as in my case) your parents don’t want you to go to college, but you really want to be an attorney. Live life for YOU. The world needs good auto mechanics and good attorneys. It’ll all work out.
  12. Don’t beat yourself up about stuff. Do what you can to fix your mistakes, then move on. Guilt is only good for pushing you toward making things right again. After that, it becomes shame, and shame is a toxic substance which will eat you up inside. Same for worry.
  13. Enjoy life. Literally, stop to smell and admire the flowers. Wonder. Smile at strangers and see how many you can get to smile back. Have fun.
  14. Life goes by really, really fast. Live each day so that, at the end, you’re reveling in how amazing your life was, not regretting all the things you did or didn’t do.
  15. Life is better after 50.
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The 3 hard choices in my life.

I had to make 3 difficult choices in my life.

The first one is the choice between friendship and stuff (there is no Wrong choice here. But friendship will make you suffer because people will use you, and stuff will make you suffer because people will leave you).

 

The second one is the choice between the one you love, and the one that loves you . There’s always one that will love more. (No choice is wrong, but if you choose to love more you will suffer never getting the same reply, if you choose to be loved by more you will carry the burden of faking your passions a small price to pay for serenity).

 

The third choice is the choice of moral principles VS happiness (the obvious and easy choice is to ignore what makes you human and be a yes man to whatever job pays more or whatever most people say is true or good, the hard choice very few of us choose is the path of speaking up your moral principles where the definition of you creates your environment, chooses your friends, and builds your self-respect and kindness, a choice you will never be thanked for in a capitalist-democracy.

Suicide note with no date.

Why there is so much hatred? because I’m just as good as castrated, but even worse…
In all rationale it seems that sexuality is completely omitted from my life at this stage, I do not recognize my gender, I do not want to have any sexual activity and even when I do I am never satisfied, therefore it is not even worth the effort to consider it the best I can do is avoid the urges and hope that as I get older the less I want it or to otherwise simply surgically remove it altogether.
The life of a circumcised male (where the procedure effectively delivered it’s intended damage) is a being that has no capability of sexual or emotional empathy a hollowed good for nothing do-it species similar to a mule (it does not reproduce, it is obedient, and it has capability of achieving self-characterization because it’s very purpose of life is taken away).
So why do we exist? why have I not killed myself yet?
there’s a simple answer to that, because I’m still serving someone… like a parent, or close friends. but in some moments I do have this realization the moment I don’t have someone else to live for…. I cannot live for myself… I seek no reason I simply await my death to relieve me from suffering.
This isn’t poetry, this isn’t some fan-fiction writing, it is more of a suicide note without an expiration date. should I ever die.. you will know that my life was taken away the moment I was sexually mutilated. what am I now is but a walking corpse of nothing.
I know many of you may find this morbid, But I also know many of you may find themselves in this situation…
What is the purpose of life? is to enjoy it and live it to the fullest, that is what I will never attain, that is what non of the circumcised males will ever attain.
The horrible thing about this world that a majority of circumcised men seek to compensate with their sexual disability by violence, ignorance, justification to circumcise others, and until all circumcised men realize and confront their fears, this havoc will go on running.
What was once a salve mark, a rape-punishment, and later a sacrifice to Satan (A Jewish god). has now become a serious epidemic of misery, the spread of hatred, the reason for wars, and a political statement by the Zionist order, to mark their rule over your most sacred territory, that you are not the owner of your body, sex, or soul. this is property of Zion.
That’s why I want to die.

The Virtues of Continues Improvement

In a video called “Why You Need to Fail”, CD Baby founder Derek Sivers describes the surprising results of a ceramics class.

On the first day, the instructor announced to his class that the students would be divided into two groups. Half of the students would only need to make one clay pot each during the semester. Their grades would depend on the perfection of that solitary pot.

The other half of the class would be graded simply by the weight of the pots they made during the semester. If they made 50 pounds of pots or more, they’d get an A. Forty pounds would earn a B; 30 pounds, a C; and so on. What they actually made was irrelevant. The instructor said he wouldn’t even look at their pots. He would simply bring his bathroom scale to the final day of class and weigh the students’ work.

At the end of the semester, an interesting thing had occurred. Outside observers of the class noted that the highest-quality pots had been made by the “quantity group”. They had spent the entire semester working as quickly as they could to make pots. Sometimes they succeeded, and sometimes they failed. Which each iteration, each experiment, they learned. From that learning they became better able to achieve the end goal: making high-quality clay pots.

By contrast, the group that made one object didn’t have the benefit of those failed iterations and didn’t learn quickly enough to perform at the same level as the “Quantity group”. They had spent their semester theorizing about what would make a “grade-A” clay pot but didn’t have the experience to execute that grandiose vision.

 

 

Views on modern sexuality

Please don’t judge if you stumble upon my views. I merely share this for scientific and research purposes, if you have questions feel free to comment or message me.


Below is quoted from comments I made during a discussion with my friends

My view on modern sexuality

I’m monogamous (loyal to single partner) and heartbreak is the worse pain!  And sexuality as majority of people treat it today is so devolved and primitive. Because the goal of human communication isn’t mutual satisfaction. It isn’t reproduction. Its in being able to accept differences, develop societies, a sense of belonging in families.

Because the survival of any species depends on  socialism.  Reason why animals move herds, birds fly in flocks, bees live in colonies and humans create culture.    To deny communication is to deny the very reason we exist.   The idea that we exist for each other to be part of each other’s lives.  Sexuality is but a small reward to the individual.  Perverting it won’t get us far.


I think honosexuality is an abnormality/disorder.  It only exists as a genetic flaw in human biology. Because  humans are in constant conflict instead of accepting differences they are accepting similarities.

In my analogy, honosexuality is the result of our miscommunication. :>

I.e.  with enough heartbreaks I may as well become gay.  Or my kids may based of the genetic experience I pass on.

 You always hear people saying I discovered I’m a lesbian <<< hints of a gay convert…. 

Gays are friendlier and nicer because
A: you don't feel threatened around them.
And B: they actually only talk to you because you're a good person.

While normal girls and guys can be easily lured by display of character.  An opposite orientation will always see the human aspect. And never consider the idea of fornication. 

SURPRISE: cultures of no sex before marriage encourage people to see the human aspect and based of that they get married!  (Shocking).

Bisexuality or the (careless/confused) community are people who careless about satisfying others and only seek own satisfaction by (whichever) means.  

Bisexual: If one doesn't work…. Let's try the other!

Gay born:  abused by the world and judged for being different, their interests naturally align with same Gender. And they are also in love with themselves in the mirror! Homosexuality does NOT embrace differences at all. Instead it seeks identical interests. This is TOTALLY normal. but even in gay community a polarisation occurs. One will be dominant and one will be submissive. Except in their case they can actually switch roles without rear thoughts.

Gay converts: don't hate at them. They're not fake. And some of them were forcibly pushed into being straight in a society (just like when you force a left handed person to be right handed).  Sooner or later they will start using their left hand.  It takes time for them to naturally recover from social pressure to what they are, the other parts where normal straight people become gay as part of social influence.

Believe it or not. People today think GAY is COOL. so they intentionally declare themselves gay in pursuit of attention! While I won't argue which sex does this more.  I strongly believe that the majority of gay converts.. Are simply gay because its a fad. And a couple years from now they will be happily married to their opposite gender anyway!

All what I'm saying is my personal conclusion. I'm not implying anything I said being a fact. But I do a lot of reading and I meet and ask a lot of questions. I also don't mean to offend someone or some gender. If I did I'm sorry.

As for my orientation I'll tell you.
I'm a bisexual who decided to be straight. And although I'm attracted to men more I made the choice where I believe I can build a better future.

Little Tigress

A couple of months ago I had the privillage to meet one of the nicest people to me, open, patient, friendly, and over all rounded, self-respectful well established personality that I easily became inspired by.

Little Tigress, and I’ll call her Tiger, first came into my life as a co-worker, as every Tiger equipped with fangs and claws she seemed very intimidating.

keeping distance seemed like the best approach. but I was no ordinary animal either, I was born on the Chinese zodiac year of Snake, as a curious Gemini my curiousity got the best of me this time and I walked on and asked her out on a lunch.

Little Tiger smiled and said “sure”, I was expecting a polite turn down, or maybe a confrontation of some sort… Tiger didn’t bite me, Tiger didn’t fight me at all… I had a meme face of “What Sorcery is this!”

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Later afternoon off we went into my car, it’s Just me and the intimidating tiger, (keep it cool Dino!! keep it cool!) I tell myself… this should end up at best to be a good friendship, just like the other girls I talk to on my daily basis, when something is intimidating its better to face your fears and sleep better at night but in this case, I’ll feel more comfortable at work!

Tiger didn’t want to go anywhere, Tiger didn’t want to eat..  Tiger is actually vegitarian!  *giggles*  I never befriended vegitarians I have no idea how they survive, and here I was getting all sorts of images in my head…. images like this

tigerbunny

Looks like a tiger but doesn’t eat meat, not so scary after all! but it can’t be that simple a bunny with worrior stripes must have a story behind her… Interesting isn’t it?

For a snake I do a terrible job, I’m awkward naturally and the best way I can cope with my awkwardness is to be open about it and share my thoughts in all honesty… I bet all you guys and girls reading that are turning your heads that I’m going the wrong way about it… but ask yourselves the question had you been that Tiger what would that Tiger really want… the tiger now is intimidated; it’s not because I did something wrong, it’s because I did not do something wrong… the fear of the unknown… Tiger sees fangs and now I know that the Tiger is really a bunny… All the tiger wants is the truth the assurance that I’m no hunter either… so truth I gave…  long story short she doesn’t buy my truth she expects a mischivious evil human truth…

People experience life differently and you should never take words for what the total Truth is. whether it’s the truth I say, or the truth she was told to protect her from the wild Jungle of modern human environment…  The truth doesn’t really exist, the closes you can get to it are the convictions you choose to believe in.

Statistically … Find out if you or your friend is really a SLUT?

Statistically it takes 2-3 months for a person to get over a relationship, and if all your relationships were unsuccessful during the year you would be having a new date every 2 months (at most), and that’s 6 different partners a year.  People who pass that ratio aren’t considered dating since they don’t have emotional investment to get over with. earning them the title SLUT.     – Statistically…


SLUT According to Wikipedia

Slut or slattern is a term applied to an individual who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. The accepted denotative meaning is a sexually promiscuous woman[2] or “a woman of a low or loose character; a bold or impudent girl; a hussy, jade”.[3] These definitions identify a slut as a person of low character—a person who lacks the ability or chooses not to exercise a power of discernment to order their affairs, similar to terms used for men, such as a cad, rake, or womanizer. The adjective “slutty” carries a similar connotation, but can be applied both to people and to clothing and accessories, such as Halloween costumes.[4]

The term is generally pejorative and most often used as an insult, sexual slur or offensive term of disparagement (slut shaming).[1][5] It can also be used to mean “dirty or slovenly”.[5] The derogatory power of the term derives both from its denotative meaning of a promiscuous woman, but also from its historical and regional connotations or alternate meanings that identify a slut as a dirty or unkempt person.

The lack of a comparably popular term for men highlights the double standard in societal expectations between males and females.[6] However, in recent times, there have been attempts to “reclaim” the word, while some individuals embrace the title as a source of pride.[7][8]

Jehovah’s script on Abortion

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The creation of a baby takes 2.. so should the termination of baby take 2.. both parents should mutually agree on such thing.
both parents LOSE the right to decide anything once the baby is considered separate life form.. ( after 2 weeks of incubation )

Where at that point the BABY retains human rights and full rights to be born, raised, and protected under the responsibility of his parents should they be physically and financially be able to.

That is the will of Jehovah. those who agree not should question whether they have the right to live their own life before they decide to take a life of another being.

Mood control

Moods change depending on the environment and that can be anything from smell. Colors. Sounds. Tastes and food

And in turn the brain has a part responsible for our self-defense that releases commands in forms of pheromones.
Those pheromones help us decide if something is pretty or ugly. Disgusting or delicious. Good for us or bad for us.

Based on that another part of the brain carries out an emotional response such as repulsion anger hate aggressiveness and so on.

To control those mood changes you do not need external medicine as our medieval science suggests.

You simply need to expose yourself to countering agents. To relieve stress you can smell lavender or listen to calm music or water

To amplify thinking yo can listen to violin and muted drums. A good balance will give you the right amount of adrenalin with another pheromone that triggers curiosity.

Music is a science on its own.

Be sure that no matter what medical field states its a money-making lie.
There is no bipolar. There is no ADHD.

Those errors happen when you force the brain to work the way it’s not supposed to do… like school peer-pressure.

Relax and listen to your brain it knows better than what other monkeys think they know about it…   Pay attention to yourself first, your actions; It will help you become a better version of yourself.

Words of Wisdom by – Random Awkward Silence

 
 
Life is about making peace with what is. you cant change your past.
a person is what he chooses to be
you can achieve your dreams
you can be happy
 
you chose to believe you cannot because its who you choose to belive you are
you cant chase happiness
thats not how it works
i was depressed for almost 9 months
all i could ask was “whats wrong with me. ill never get the girl. ill never be anything”
“why arent i happy. what is happy”
 
but happiness is a butterfly that if you chase will allude you. but when you give up chasing it, and look around at the world, will land on your shoulder
dont chase happiness… just look for inner peace
 
 
*Some personally identifying data was replaced with meaning-preserving alternatives.